
We had friends over for breakfast yesterday. As is often the case, I did not eat what everyone else was eating. Instead, I had a delicious concoction of sautéed spinach, smoked salmon and feta cheese. Obviously, for those eating fresh baked bread, jam, bacon and other goodies, I come off as either a weirdo or an extremist (probably a bit of both). It's not that I don't like those other things. I will even indulge in them when I want to, especially when we have company or are celebrating a special occasion. But there are times, like right now, where my priorities are in another place. Right now, as I've mentioned in previous posts, I'm near the end of a fat loss Battle Plan (and I won by-the-way).
Because of where my priorities are right now, I derive more pleasure from eating cleanly and feeling like every fork in the road takes me towards my goal. That is what really makes me happy right now. And that is what allows me to pass up on the goodies that are right in front of my face without feeling deprived or jealous (most of the time).
But anyway, the gist of this post actually hinges around an interested conversation which ensued after breakfast. We were talking about BioSignature modulation, which I recently added to my training services. It is a method which uses skinfolds to build a sketch of the trainee's hormonal profile in order to tailor nutrition, supplement and exercise coaching. The idea of a profile lends itself to the question of what a perfect profile would look like. And that is what my friend wanted to know. What does the most perfectly healthy human look like and how do they act to get that way?
The problem is, rather than referring to a perfect profile, it is much more realistic to refer to each person's individual situation as a point of departure. This turned into a very philosophical discussion about health, happiness and priorities. And for me, it constantly came back to some advice that I give my clients time after time. Everything is a choice.
When a client asks me, "do I have to eat like this?" My answer is always, "of course not!" No one can choose your priorities for you. It all depends on what you really want. Do you want the Peanut Butter Cup (I love those things - don't ask me why) or do you want to feel energetic and lean? There is no right answer. Yes, I mean it!
If not eating the Peanut Butter Cup is going to make you miserable, then eat it. I know plenty of people who do no exercise and eat whatever they want. And they are always smiling, laughing, making merry, having fun with their kids and friends and generally just leading a full life. They are making the right choices for them.
I know other people who make the same exercise and eating choices but who are totally miserable with themselves over it. They are not making the right choices. Their priorities, at least on a subconscious level, are not coherent with their actions. In fact, I've lived this many-a-time. I've been known to go on a bit of a sugar binge from time to time (I'm a serious sugar addict for those of you who don't know). And the whole time I am hating what I'm doing, but don't stop myself. I'm not talking about an occasional indulgence, which I enjoy whole-heartedly, but an all-out landslide that lasts for days (caveat - it doesn't happen very often).
The point is, there is no perfect diet and exercise plan. There is no perfect lifestyle. No one can impose a lifestyle on you that you sincerely do not want. You need to synch up your health and lifestyle choices with your priorities. Do that, and you will be the happy version of you. If not, you'll be miserable. Choose what is right for you. But just remember that some holes are easy to dig and hard to crawl out of. So give some earnest thought to your future happiness too. It is part of the equation. And as Brad would probably say, whatever you are eating, enjoy it (since it is going down the hatch anyway).